From One to Two: The Wild Transition of Becoming a Mom of Two

I thought I had it all figured out... then baby #2 arrived!

So...I used to think I had this motherhood thing down. With one child, you eventually settle into some sort of a rhythm. You start to remember which side of the baby grows a diaper goes on, figure out how to make snacks out of thin air, and maybe even get a few hours of sleep (in a row—imagine!). Life with one child becomes a manageable chaos, and just when you think you're a seasoned pro—boom! You decide to add another little human to the mix. 

Oh, sweet, naive, past-me… how little I knew.😱😱

The Rookie Mistake

Back when I was pregnant with baby #2, I caught myself saying absurd things like, "It can't be that different, right? I mean, we’re already in baby mode." Hahahaha. 

Oh, Tshenolo, bless your sweet heart.

The truth is, the transition from one to two is not just a “level up” in parenting—it’s like entering a whole new video game where the rules change without warning. If life with one child was like juggling with one ball, life with two is juggling blindfolded... while riding a unicycle... on a tightrope. And there’s a monkey involved. Somewhere. 

Divide and… I Don’t Know, Hope for the Best

Here’s what no one tells you: you cannot divide yourself in half. I mean, math said so. But guess what, your two kids haven’t read that chapter yet. So, while you're simultaneously spooning baby mush into one mouth and answering "Why is the sky blue?" for the 400th time, you’ll have these moments where both children are inexplicably crying… at the same time… for reasons that remain a mystery to this day. I used to think, “It’s fine, I’ll just multi-task.” 

Spoiler alert: there’s no multi-tasking in motherhood—just tasking… chaotically.

Remember Sleep? No? Me Neither 💀

With one child, I had hope. Yes, hope that one day I’d get a full night's sleep again. It felt possible. Yes, my boy was more on the clingy side of things but...I had hope.

But with two? Sleep becomes this mythical creature, like a unicorn or a sock that doesn't mysteriously disappear in the dryer. You start treating naps the way you treat coffee—precious, rare, and essential to your survival. It’s amazing how quickly you adapt to living on the edge of exhaustion while still managing to function (kind of). 

Also, why do they have this secret sibling code where, the second one kid finally falls asleep, the other one gets an urgent need for snacks, snuggles, or to loudly ask about dinosaurs IN THE MIDDLE OF A RANDOM TUESDAY NIGHT?

Mom-Guilt, Now in 3D!

Here’s the part that stings: with two kids, you feel like someone is always getting the short end of the stick. You’ll inevitably feel guilty about not giving enough time to your older child while feeding the baby, or vice versa. It’s like there’s this never-ending mental scoreboard of who’s getting more of your attention, and spoiler alert: You always lose.

But then there are the moments when your oldest hugs the baby and says, “I love you baby,” and you realize that maybe, just maybe you’re not screwing this up after all. Maybe they’re learning from each other. Maybe you’re creating something magical—some days even if it’s just magic through sticky fingers and diaper disasters.

Final Thoughts: The Great Balancing Act (With Snacks)

Transitioning from one to two kids is… a lot. I won’t sugarcoat it. But what makes it worth it is the double joy, double love, and double the weird little moments that make you laugh out loud in the middle of the chaos. 

Yes, your house will be messier. Yes, you’ll be more tired than you’ve ever been. But you’ll also find your heart somehow manages to expand enough to love both of them fiercely—whether they’re teaming up to destroy the living room or cuddling together on the couch.

So, to all the moms wondering if it’s really that hard with two—yes, yes it is. But you’ll also love every beautifully chaotic minute of it. And if all else fails, there’s always coffee. And snacks. Endless snacks.

So that’s my wild ride from one to two! But I know every mom’s journey is a little different—and often filled with its own hilarious moments. Have you transitioned from one kid to two (or more)? What surprised you the most? Did your kids form a secret alliance to ensure you never have five minutes of peace?

Share your funny stories, struggles, or even survival tips in the comments below! I’d love to hear how you navigated (or are currently navigating) the beautiful chaos that is life with more than one little one. Let’s get the conversation going and give each other a few laughs and maybe some much-needed solidarity. After all, we’re all in this together—and trust me, it’s much more fun with friends!

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Lots of Love, 

Your Girl from The In-Betweens 💞