To the Mom Who Feels Lost: You’re Stronger Than You Know

 

Finding your way, even when the road feels uncertain.

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Hey Mama,

If you’ve found yourself here, it means you’re carrying a weight you didn’t expect, one that sometimes feels too heavy to bear alone. Maybe your heart feels like it’s breaking, or perhaps you’re at that place where every day feels a little less like “you.” It could be that the connection with your partner feels like it’s slipping, or you’re asking yourself big questions you never thought you’d have to. I want you to know: you’re not alone.

The truth is, so many of us have been where you are—feeling lost, trying to care for your little ones while facing an emptiness you can’t quite put into words. You’re carrying so much on your shoulders, and it’s okay to feel overwhelmed. It’s okay to feel like you’re not sure where to go from here. But let me remind you of one thing: inside you, there’s a strength you haven’t yet seen in its fullest, a fire that’s been quietly holding on through everything.

You Don’t Have to Have All the Answers

Right now, there might be a part of you searching for “the answer,” that one thing that will make everything fall back into place. But here’s the secret: you don’t have to have it all figured out today. Sometimes, the most healing thing you can do is to just take one step at a time. Allow yourself to move slowly, to feel what you’re feeling, to let yourself grieve, hope, or even feel confused.

Your worth isn’t measured by how quickly you find your way. It’s measured by your courage to show up every day, to hold your babies close, and to keep going even when the road ahead looks a little foggy.

Rediscovering You—One Small Step at a Time

When you’re caught in the whirlwind of caring for kids and dealing with the weight of an uncertain relationship, it’s easy to forget who you are outside of it all. Maybe you can’t even remember the last time you did something just for you. This journey? It’s also about finding your way back to yourself.

Start small. Maybe it’s an early morning walk, a journal entry, or a 5-minute meditation when everyone else is asleep. Find one small thing each day that connects you to the woman inside who is still here, who hasn’t disappeared. Those little moments might not seem like much, but they’re like tiny sparks. They’re reminders that you’re more than the roles you play, more than the struggles you’re facing. You’re a woman with dreams, with resilience, with a light that still shines—even if it feels a bit dim right now.

Choosing What’s Right for You and Your Heart

I won’t pretend that there’s an easy answer, especially if you’re at a crossroads in your relationship or career. Maybe you’re wondering if it’s worth holding on, or if it’s time to let go. Whatever your path ends up being, know this: you have the right to choose what’s best for you and your children. Whether that’s taking time to work on things with your partner or deciding to create a new life on your own, your happiness matters. Your peace matters. And you’re worthy of love, whether from your partner or from yourself.

Remember, You’re Not Doing This Alone

When life feels overwhelming, it’s easy to feel like you’re carrying everything on your own. But let me tell you, there are people who want to support you—friends, family, other moms who’ve walked this path. Don’t be afraid to reach out, to lean on them, to tell someone how you’re feeling. Sometimes, simply saying, “I’m struggling,” can lift a weight off your heart. And if you don’t know where to turn, know that there are communities, even online, filled with moms who would understand exactly what you’re going through.

Trust Yourself—You’re Stronger Than You Think

Right now, you might not feel strong. You might feel anything but. But every time you comfort your children, every time you choose to keep going, you’re showing a strength that’s beyond words. This moment won’t last forever, and you will find your way. Trust that you’re exactly who your kids need, that you have everything inside you to get through this.

Take a deep breath, Mama. Hold on to the truth that this, too, shall pass. One day, you’ll look back and realize you made it through. And maybe, just maybe, you’ll see that every step, every tear, every choice to keep going was leading you to a version of yourself who is wiser, stronger, and ready for whatever comes next.

With all the love in my heart,
A Sister on This Journey With You 💕