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Choosing Yourself on a Tuesday Morning: A Gentle Reminder That You Matter Too

 Good Morning, Lovely Human.

The kettle hums quietly in the background. Maybe you're cradling a cup of something warm, it could be coffee, lemoney-rooibos, or hot chocolate if you're like me. Maybe you’re scrolling between tasks, baby on your hip or deadlines staring you down. Wherever this finds you, this Tuesday morning, I hope you know: it’s okay to choose yourself.

That phrase, "choose yourself," gets thrown around a lot. Sometimes it's wrapped in glossy self-care aesthetics (candles, spa days, yoga poses at golden hour). But choosing yourself isn’t always that curated. Sometimes, it's quietly radical. Sometimes, it's saying no when you’re expected to say yes. Sometimes, it’s whispering “I’m tired” instead of pushing through.

Choosing Yourself Isn’t Selfish—It’s Sacred

Maybe you’re a mom who hasn’t heard your own thoughts uninterrupted in days. Maybe you’re navigating singlehood and wondering if your worth is tied to your relationship status. Maybe you’re married and feeling invisible beneath the weight of roles: wife, partner, fixer, doer.

Whoever you are, whatever version of life you’re living right now-this is your permission slip:


You are allowed to center yourself.
You are allowed to pause.
You are allowed to matter, too.

What Choosing Yourself Might Look Like Today

Let’s strip it down. Choosing yourself today might look like:

  • Turning your phone on Do Not Disturb for 30 minutes while you breathe and just be.

  • Making a proper breakfast instead of grabbing the crusts off your toddler’s toast.

  • Saying no to the invitation you don’t have the energy to show up for.

  • Journaling. Praying. Stretching. Walking.

  • Admitting to yourself that you're not okay - and deciding to do something gentle about it.

It's Not All-Or-Nothing

Choosing yourself doesn’t mean abandoning your responsibilities or your people. It’s not a rebellion. It’s a reclamation.

When you remember your own name and refill your own cup, you become more grounded and whole. And from that place, you can pour into others without resentment.

And yes, the world will try to convince you otherwise. That you're only as valuable as you are useful. That your exhaustion is a badge of honor. That being "strong" means being everything for everyone.

But strength, real strength, includes rest. Boundaries. Breath. Stillness. Choosing you.

A Tuesday Morning Reminder for Your Soul

So as you move through this morning, here’s what I hope you remember:

  • You are not too much for needing a break.

  • You are not behind. You are building.

  • You are not selfish for protecting your peace.

  • You are not alone, even if it feels like it.

Whatever life is asking of you right now, ask something of yourself too: What do I need in this moment to feel more like myself?
Answer honestly. Then honor it.

Even if it’s just five minutes. Even if it’s just this blog post and a quiet nod that says, “Yes. Me too.”

You deserve the same love you so freely give.

And maybe today is the day you start giving it.

Love, 

T💕

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